Hex Yeah
@HexagonSystem
Team of 7 •|• They/Them •|• Adult •|• All Plural Systems are Valid •|• Notion template dev •|• Architectural Modeler
You might like
We keep finding confusing analogies btw trans & plural & seeing System/Plural used interchangeably w DID/OSDD While trying to understand, & tying together what others have said, this is what we came up with A thread (1/6) #dissociatwt #pluralgang #OSDDID #DID #syscourse
I don't like this, but it looks like I'll be deleting this account before this app becomes a security issue
You bet, dissociation can feel MUCH safer than being present with certain triggers, feelings, & memories. It EXISTS as a psychological safety strategy. Thing is: dissociation doesn't just delete or avoid those things-- it stashes them somewhere. And they don't STAY stashed.
Trauma tries to hijack our brain & hack our memories & fool our body. It drags us away from who we really are & what our life is really about. Recovery is about remembering WHO WE ARE-- or, sometimes, recreating ourselves from scratch, w/ beliefs & behaviors & values WE choose.
Post traumatic avoidance doesn't contain itself to things that directly remind us of trauma. When we have PTSD, our nervous system has been reprogrammed to manage almost EVERY situation as if it's life threatening-- leaving precious little bandwidth for, you know, living life.
It's not "betraying" your family to refuse to carry old, toxic secrets anymore. They were actually betraying you by asking you to carry that weight that you never asked for. You don't do that to a kid you're supposed to protect & nurture.
Why SHOULD we trust anyone when the ppl who were SUPPOSED to see us, protect us, be on our side, dropped the ball? We don't "have" to trust ANYONE we don't feel ready to-- & even then, we don't "have" to trust them more than we're able to right now. Easy. Give it time.
Putting words to what we've experienced isn't as easy as it sounds if we were raised in a family where keeping secrets and saving face were the top priorities. Telling our story may feel dangerous if we were conditioned to keep quiet-- or else. Give yourself time.
Some people find classical music soothing-- others find death metal soothing. Some people meditate in silence, others are badly triggered by silence. Maybe what makes YOU feel safe & focused isn't "normal." So? Your recovery tools have to work for YOU-- or they don't work.
You don't have to forgive someone-- even if they really, really want you to. Even if they make you feel like a bad person for NOT forgiving them. Even if they say the words "I'm sorry." Forgive-- or not-- on your timetable, for your reasons.
Oh, you'll have days when you're "not living up to your potential." And? EVERY single day you survive & get a little better, cope a little better, function a little better, get .01% clearer on your needs & goals & strengths-- THAT'S you hitting it out of the park. For real.
Do such a small part of the thing you're putting off that it feels ridiculous. Do such a small chunk of the first step of the first step that it'd almost be harder NOT to do it. Spend 60 seconds doing the thing. Bite off such a small nibble it feels silly. Just get started.
the idea that people are faking severe chronic illnesses en masse for attention is hilarious to me because anyone with severe chronic illnesses knows that you lose like 95-100% of your friends once you become too sick to fake being well 24/7
"Hindsight bias"-- "things would have been different if only I'd done (whatever)"-- can SMOTHER us for YEARS...and it's not fair to judge who we were then w/ what we know NOW. You didn't know what you didn't know. Forgive yourself for not knowing then what you know now.
When we grew up abused or neglected, we might have a tendency to hang on to things like jobs, relationships, habits, or beliefs that aren't great for us-- but which are predictable and stabilizing. Er, such as it is. Change involves risk-- & risk often feels OVERWHELMING.
Hey. Don't relapse tonight. Yup, I get it. You've got all the stressors, & they're real. They might be life changing. They're scary. I get it. But relapsing doesn't solve any problem you have-- & it hands you a much more dangerous one. Just handle this minute, this minute.
Trauma processing often involves confronting painful, confusing memories & toxic realities-- & we can only do it AFTER lots of hard work establishing a stable, safer baseline. It can be EXHAUSTING. EVERYONE working their trauma recovey is an Olympic level emotional athlete.
Most people aren’t faking sick, they are faking well. Read. That. Again.
In recovery we slowly work through the half-truths we've been telling ourselves & others for YEARS about why we do & don't do certain things-- all while struggling w/ the fear that if we end up being totally honest, we'll be mocked & abandoned. Easy does it. One day at a time.
United States Trends
- 1. Chargers 79 B posts
- 2. Herbert 56,6 B posts
- 3. #GoldenGlobes 1,55 Mn posts
- 4. Greg Roman 9.140 posts
- 5. Drake Maye 24,7 B posts
- 6. Pats 23,6 B posts
- 7. Eagles 268 B posts
- 8. Powell 136 B posts
- 9. 49ers 138 B posts
- 10. Sinners 77,1 B posts
- 11. AJ Brown 38,7 B posts
- 12. Milton Williams 2.857 posts
- 13. Jalen 44,4 B posts
- 14. Hamnet 12,6 B posts
- 15. Jim Harbaugh 2.991 posts
- 16. Niners 29,9 B posts
- 17. New England 13,1 B posts
- 18. #LACvsNE 3.663 posts
- 19. #BoltUp 3.860 posts
- 20. Vrabel 4.592 posts
You might like
Something went wrong.
Something went wrong.