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James Yoder

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be kind to yourself. love is the answer.

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We have no control over who we’re born as. People’s beliefs originate from the environments they’ve been in. Someone that disagrees with you may only do that because they don’t have the same experience with the subject as you.


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You cannot build a deep connection with someone who is disconnected from themselves


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I’ve worked with many people who claim they’re fine but are actually in a functional freeze response. They tend to be high achievers and workaholics who perform well and feel numb inside. Almost as if they’re watching themselves live life, not experiencing it


“I’ll heal so I won’t hurt you.”


“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” ……


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Shame creates defensiveness.


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Control is a coping mechanism for dealing with fear and uncertainty.


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Longevity of marriage doesn’t mean there’s fulfillment or emotional connection.


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How your partner was loved as a child will show up in: how they react when hurt, how they communicate during conflict, and how they respond when you share your feelings.


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The opposite of trauma is connection.


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The more self aware you become, the more you understand you can’t fix anyone else’s deep rooted issues.


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If you show frustration or anger through: sighing, giving the silent treatment, or making sarcastic comments, you have a passive aggressive communication style. Here's why:


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Healing is how we re-write our own life story.


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Codependency: how you feel about me is how I feel about me.


“I had to stop trying to be a great man, so I could be a good man.” favorite quote right now


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Emotional intimacy can be terrifying if you’ve never truly been seen.


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We just reached 700k🎉 As a huge thank you to this community, I’m giving away signed copies both of my books. TO ENTER: 1. Retweet this 2. Comment where you’re from Winner chosen and announced tomorrow. Open internationally. GOOD LUCK.

Theholisticpsyc's tweet image. We just reached 700k🎉 As a huge thank you to this community, I’m giving away signed copies both of my books.

TO ENTER:
1. Retweet this 
2. Comment where you’re from 

Winner chosen and announced tomorrow. Open internationally.
GOOD LUCK.

Person 1: “To be honest.. I.. often feel I’ve got nothing interesting to say.. ” Person 2: “Being honest is always interesting.”


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A common pattern from childhood trauma is betraying ourselves to be loved or chosen as adults.


“Slow down, no one else is on your journey.”


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The silent treatment is a normalized form of emotional abuse. Part of maturing is learning how to communicate, rather than using silence as punishment.


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