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Jay Stringer

@_jaystringer

Author of Unwanted:How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing

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After Unwanted, I kept listening. The deeper work came into focus: it isn’t only about stopping “unwanted” behaviors—it’s about forming desire, the force under our choices. My new book, DESIRE is now available for preorder, wherever books are sold.

_jaystringer's tweet image. After Unwanted, I kept listening. The deeper work came into focus: it isn’t only about stopping “unwanted” behaviors—it’s about forming desire, the force under our choices.
My new book, DESIRE is now available for preorder, wherever books are sold.
_jaystringer's tweet image. After Unwanted, I kept listening. The deeper work came into focus: it isn’t only about stopping “unwanted” behaviors—it’s about forming desire, the force under our choices.
My new book, DESIRE is now available for preorder, wherever books are sold.
_jaystringer's tweet image. After Unwanted, I kept listening. The deeper work came into focus: it isn’t only about stopping “unwanted” behaviors—it’s about forming desire, the force under our choices.
My new book, DESIRE is now available for preorder, wherever books are sold.

It’s okay not to know what you want. Most of us were never taught to listen to desire—only to suppress it. We were told to make the right choices, be grateful for what we have, and not want too much. But your desires were never the problem.

_jaystringer's tweet image. It’s okay not to know what you want. Most of us were never taught to listen to desire—only to suppress it. We were told to make the right choices, be grateful for what we have, and not want too much. 

But your desires were never the problem.
_jaystringer's tweet image. It’s okay not to know what you want. Most of us were never taught to listen to desire—only to suppress it. We were told to make the right choices, be grateful for what we have, and not want too much. 

But your desires were never the problem.
_jaystringer's tweet image. It’s okay not to know what you want. Most of us were never taught to listen to desire—only to suppress it. We were told to make the right choices, be grateful for what we have, and not want too much. 

But your desires were never the problem.
_jaystringer's tweet image. It’s okay not to know what you want. Most of us were never taught to listen to desire—only to suppress it. We were told to make the right choices, be grateful for what we have, and not want too much. 

But your desires were never the problem.

Trying to change your patterns can feel exhausting. If you’re ready to stop bending desire toward optimization or management, and let it form you for the work of love, click here to preorder: amzn.to/4hHUa2F

_jaystringer's tweet image. Trying to change your patterns can feel exhausting.

If you’re ready to stop bending desire toward optimization or management, and let it form you for the work of love, click here to preorder: amzn.to/4hHUa2F

Most of us assume we’re the authors of our desire. We’re not. All too often our desires are shaped by what others want us to want, whether it’s a beauty product, a tech gadget, a wellness trend, or a sexual experience.


Many of us have learned to fear our own desires. We call them selfish, distracting, or dangerous. So we run—from our longings into productivity, screens, or substances. But every time we suppress what we truly want, we disconnect from the parts of us that most need to come alive.

_jaystringer's tweet image. Many of us have learned to fear our own desires. We call them selfish, distracting, or dangerous. So we run—from our longings into productivity, screens, or substances. But every time we suppress what we truly want, we disconnect from the parts of us that most need to come alive.

I explore how to form desire—without losing belonging—in my new book DESIRE (Penguin Random House, March). Pre-order here: a.co/d/0mWYzE7 #JayStringer #DesireBook #HealingJourney

_jaystringer's tweet image. I explore how to form desire—without losing belonging—in my new book DESIRE (Penguin Random House, March).

Pre-order here: a.co/d/0mWYzE7 

#JayStringer #DesireBook #HealingJourney

Søren Kierkegaard said, “The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly the one you’ll never have.” That ache for what will never be is where our desire begins to speak. DESIRE is available for preorder here: a.co/d/0mWYzE7

_jaystringer's tweet image. Søren Kierkegaard said, “The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly the one you’ll never have.”

 That ache for what will never be is where our desire begins to speak.

DESIRE is available for preorder here: a.co/d/0mWYzE7
_jaystringer's tweet image. Søren Kierkegaard said, “The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly the one you’ll never have.”

 That ache for what will never be is where our desire begins to speak.

DESIRE is available for preorder here: a.co/d/0mWYzE7
_jaystringer's tweet image. Søren Kierkegaard said, “The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly the one you’ll never have.”

 That ache for what will never be is where our desire begins to speak.

DESIRE is available for preorder here: a.co/d/0mWYzE7
_jaystringer's tweet image. Søren Kierkegaard said, “The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly the one you’ll never have.”

 That ache for what will never be is where our desire begins to speak.

DESIRE is available for preorder here: a.co/d/0mWYzE7

Apart from a selfie or a mirror, we can’t see our own face. There’s a lot of metaphor in that. The people who walk with us shape the way we see ourselves—and in doing so, they shape the quality of our future. Click here to pre-order Desire today: a.co/d/0mWYzE7

_jaystringer's tweet image. Apart from a selfie or a mirror, we can’t see our own face.

There’s a lot of metaphor in that.

The people who walk with us shape the way we see ourselves—and in doing so, they shape the quality of our future.

Click here to pre-order Desire today: a.co/d/0mWYzE7

If you know something must shift but don’t know where to begin, my new book DESIRE offers a map. It shows how you arrived here and how to harness heartache and longing to build a life of connection, purpose, and love. Desire is now available for preorder: a.co/d/0mWYzE7

_jaystringer's tweet image. If you know something must shift but don’t know where to begin, my new book DESIRE offers a map. It shows how you arrived here and how to harness heartache and longing to build a life of connection, purpose, and love.

Desire is now available for preorder: a.co/d/0mWYzE7

If you want to start forming your desires, click here for a book that will guide you: a.co/d/0mWYzE7 #JayStringer #DesireBook

_jaystringer's tweet image. If you want to start forming your desires, click here for a book that will guide you: a.co/d/0mWYzE7

#JayStringer #DesireBook

Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and best-selling author Dan Siegel says every child needs the 4 S’s for healthy development. Seen. Soothed. Safe. Secure.

_jaystringer's tweet image. Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and best-selling author Dan Siegel says every child needs the 4 S’s for healthy development. Seen. Soothed. Safe. Secure.
_jaystringer's tweet image. Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and best-selling author Dan Siegel says every child needs the 4 S’s for healthy development. Seen. Soothed. Safe. Secure.

📚 Exciting News! 📚 I'm thrilled to announce that Penguin Random House published Unwanted in Spanish today! 🌍✨ #BookRelease #NewLanguageEdition #ReadingInSpanish #AuthorLife #Unwanted #Indeseable

_jaystringer's tweet image. 📚 Exciting News! 📚

I'm thrilled to announce that Penguin Random House published Unwanted in Spanish today! 🌍✨

#BookRelease #NewLanguageEdition #ReadingInSpanish #AuthorLife #Unwanted #Indeseable

Heather and I are offering a webinar for parents of 3-12 year-olds titled Body Talks. We hope you can join us on June 1. #HealthyKids #HealthyParenting #FamilySystems #BodyTalks #BodyImage #HealthySexuality #TheTalk #healing #equipping #JayStringer

_jaystringer's tweet image. Heather and I are offering a webinar for parents of 3-12 year-olds titled Body Talks. We hope you can join us on June 1. #HealthyKids #HealthyParenting #FamilySystems #BodyTalks #BodyImage #HealthySexuality #TheTalk #healing #equipping #JayStringer
_jaystringer's tweet image. Heather and I are offering a webinar for parents of 3-12 year-olds titled Body Talks. We hope you can join us on June 1. #HealthyKids #HealthyParenting #FamilySystems #BodyTalks #BodyImage #HealthySexuality #TheTalk #healing #equipping #JayStringer

Have you ever felt like you live disconnected from your body? And more importantly, do you know how to reconnect to yourself & the one you love? Join Sheila, Adam, & I this Saturday, May 4, as we explore desire, disembodiment, and sex at this year's #SexualAttachmentConference


In the intensives and groups I run for individuals who feel low to no desire, I often encourage them in a simple framework: Notice, Intensify, and Bless. sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture

_jaystringer's tweet image. In the intensives and groups I run for individuals who feel low to no desire, I often encourage them in a simple framework: Notice, Intensify, and Bless. sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. In the intensives and groups I run for individuals who feel low to no desire, I often encourage them in a simple framework: Notice, Intensify, and Bless. sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. In the intensives and groups I run for individuals who feel low to no desire, I often encourage them in a simple framework: Notice, Intensify, and Bless. sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture

If you're looking for a holistic way to understand your sexual story, please check out The Sexual Attachment Conference. Join us on May 4th! sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture

_jaystringer's tweet image. If you're looking for a holistic way to understand your sexual story, please check out The Sexual Attachment Conference. Join us on May 4th! sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. If you're looking for a holistic way to understand your sexual story, please check out The Sexual Attachment Conference. Join us on May 4th! sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. If you're looking for a holistic way to understand your sexual story, please check out The Sexual Attachment Conference. Join us on May 4th! sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. If you're looking for a holistic way to understand your sexual story, please check out The Sexual Attachment Conference. Join us on May 4th! sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture

I received this question from Jenn in St. Paul, MN. If you're facing something similar to Jenn, The Sexual Attachment Conference on May 4th is for you! sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture

_jaystringer's tweet image. I received this question from Jenn in St. Paul, MN. If you're facing something similar to Jenn, The Sexual Attachment Conference on May 4th is for you! sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. I received this question from Jenn in St. Paul, MN. If you're facing something similar to Jenn, The Sexual Attachment Conference on May 4th is for you! sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. I received this question from Jenn in St. Paul, MN. If you're facing something similar to Jenn, The Sexual Attachment Conference on May 4th is for you! sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #ptsd #purityculture

If you're interested in learning more about how to move towards & enjoy pleasure, join us on May 4th for The Sexual Attachment Conference. sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #purityculture

_jaystringer's tweet image. If you're interested in learning more about how to move towards & enjoy pleasure, join us on May 4th for The Sexual Attachment Conference. sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. If you're interested in learning more about how to move towards & enjoy pleasure, join us on May 4th for The Sexual Attachment Conference. sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. If you're interested in learning more about how to move towards & enjoy pleasure, join us on May 4th for The Sexual Attachment Conference. sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #purityculture
_jaystringer's tweet image. If you're interested in learning more about how to move towards & enjoy pleasure, join us on May 4th for The Sexual Attachment Conference. sexualattachment.com #attachment #storywork #sheilagregoire #adamyoung #trauma #purityculture

Registration is now open for The Sexual Attachment Conference! This year's speakers will be Adam Young, Sheila Wray Gregoire, and myself. The conference will take place on May 4th (there will be a recording too). sexualattachment.com #SexualAttachmentConference #attachment

_jaystringer's tweet image. Registration is now open for The Sexual Attachment Conference!  This year's speakers will be Adam Young, Sheila Wray Gregoire, and myself. The conference will take place on May 4th (there will be a recording too).  sexualattachment.com #SexualAttachmentConference #attachment

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