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This tremendous world I have inside me

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You know that thing Dostoevsky wrote about gambling? It’s like that. When you’re surrounded by endless possibilities, one of the hardest things to do is pass them up.


Most men radically overestimate their attractiveness because they confuse internal value with perceived value. They assume a good job, stable income, or a few accomplishments should automatically translate into desirability. Attraction doesn’t work that way. Value isn’t what you…

friend in nyc who works at a hedge fund was venting about his dating life he came from nothing, worked his ass off through school, landed a job most people would kill for. makes great money. stable. ambitious. has his life together. and he’s struggling on the dating apps. the…



If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I often say that everyone should intentionally build and curate their social media presence. It’s essentially your social and dating profile, and your digital first impression matters. We’re all in sales.

Women love saying they want a man with “low social media” or “no online presence.” It sounds wholesome, it sounds grounded, but stated preferences rarely match revealed preferences. What people say they want often collapses under what they actually choose. Women want men with…



Women love saying they want a man with “low social media” or “no online presence.” It sounds wholesome, it sounds grounded, but stated preferences rarely match revealed preferences. What people say they want often collapses under what they actually choose. Women want men with…


Women often mistake sexual access for long-term interest, not because men lie, but because women project their own psychology onto men. If they need connection to have sex, they assume men do too. But for men, sex is cheap and commitment is expensive. A man's willingness to…


Daytime is errands and productivity mode. No mystery, no charge. But at night, people soften. Time slows. There’s a current in the air, a little danger, a little desire, the sense that anything could happen. Walks are great for friends: side-by-side, looking at the scenery,…

lmaooo getting coffee & going for a walk as a first date is definitely some loser shit. Real whack, real boring



The goal is to make her feel something. Comfort, ease, warmth, curiosity. A sense that she already knows you and that you already know her. Most guys show up to a date like they’re interviewing a stranger. The trick is to enter the date like you’re stepping back into a middle…

Going on a first date tonight. What's some good conversation topics for someone who's just getting into going on dates?



When someone says “I’ve had my fun, now I’m settling for you,” what they’re really confessing is not preference, it’s depletion. You weren’t chosen at the height of desire. You were chosen at the point of emotional fatigue, when novelty no longer excites and chaos has become too…

Her: "'I've had my fun now I'm settling for you" Him: Leaves This is the most controversial thread of the week on Reddit.

reddit_lies's tweet image. Her: "'I've had my fun now I'm settling for you"
Him: Leaves

This is the most controversial thread of the week on Reddit.


A while ago, I was stuck on this girl. The ending was messy and it got in my head way more than I wanted to admit. I kept replaying everything, analyzing every moment, trying to solve it somehow. And then out of nowhere I just thought… she’s literally just a girl. She was just…


It’s that time of year.

kafkaex's tweet image. It’s that time of year.
kafkaex's tweet image. It’s that time of year.
kafkaex's tweet image. It’s that time of year.
kafkaex's tweet image. It’s that time of year.

One thing I’ve learned the hard way: people don’t come into your life because you’re nice or virtuous. They come because, in that moment, you feel like the answer to something they can’t get on their own. That’s what actually pulls people together. It's this quiet “you give me…


Dating today forces you to face something most men avoid. You have to bring value into someone’s life. You cannot be boring. There was a time when being a man automatically meant offering something useful. Protection, stability, resources, a path forward. That world is gone.…


Eating alone is only sad when nothing’s happening in your life. But when you are actively the protagonist of your own life, a table for one hits different. It’s grounding. It’s peaceful. It feels like a little breath before the next chapter kicks in.

This young man went out for a meal by himself. He said: ‘You don’t know lonely until you have to take yourself for that meal alone because sitting in a room with strangers is better than sitting in your own thoughts in an empty room’ 😔 Would you go to a restaurant by yourself?



If you want to know your future with her, ask about her past. People don’t reinvent themselves. They repeat themselves. Men fall into relationships by accident. A few good dates, some chemistry, and suddenly you’re invested without ever vetting the person you’re giving your…


Here’s how meeting women in public actually works from someone who’s done it a lot: 1. Fix your body language. This is 80 percent of the game. If you walk up stiff, upright, shoulders squared, she reads you as stranger danger. Relax your frame. Lean on something, rest your arm,…


One of the easiest ways to build confidence is to ditch headphones in public, get off your phone, and look up. Talk to the cashier, the barista, your uber driver. Say something. That’s why New Yorkers are so socially skilled. They interact with tons of strangers every day.


I've dated a lot over the years. And after enough first first dates, situationships, almost-relationships, there are a few qualities that stand out. Not things I look for, but things I notice when something actually feels long-term viable. 1. Low social media presence. Not “no…


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